Honestly, I haven't had a real conversation with my wife regarding our situation. No more than 15 minutes combined in two conversations. I was hoping being in a neutral location can get her to talk a bit more.
mvg is correct... No setting will allow for the conversation that you want... Look now! It is time to stfu, do what needs to be done and understand that there will be no conversation that will explain what you want to know, express what you want to express and have her understand or resolve the issues you think can be talked out. All conversations for now will need to be of a "business like" manner...business discussions are those where facts are the focus (and I don't mean the facts as according msp, nor according to you waw). I mean the facts that a judge would allow in the court room...
You need to do your homework here if you are going to get this...and trust me, while you are spinning you need facts to make sound decisions.
I get that you and your brain are trying to make sense of it all...you want reasons...you want to understand...you want to convince her to see the error of her decisions...we all went through this...it is our script
So here is what you need to do. Read and study cadets homework...study it like you are trying to pass a final exam. Read and study DR in the same manner. You put a "reason" or label to why this is happening in any manner that can help you STOP trying to reason and rationalize what to do next like it's a guessing game. It really does not matter if it is WAW, WW, MLC or whatever right now... You have to do the same thing regardless of which it is to get you straight.
Only after you can stablize yourself, and get yourself into a place of healthy detachment will you want to come back and determine which it is... Don't misunderstand me, knowing the difference between a WAW, WW and MLC will benefit at the appropriate time ...often times there is a combination of the 3, but let's manage everything in the appropriate time..., right now it does not matter until you are situated...she has fired you as her H...time to accept that...does not mean you can't be rehired, but if you do not start to apply the DB principles, your chances diminish much.
So let me know if you understand what I am saying here and what you will do next... Do not get caught up in the weeds here...you can't see the forest for the trees and there are those here standing on the outside calling in to direct you...you also have the road map...follow it.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
