Focus on Me and the Boys 9

[Rose888]

Jim, you are still playing the victim. You could have stopped the adoption at any point by saying that you didn't want to adopt the boys. You didn't. That's on you, not your STBXW.

And although you can't control how she parents, you absolutely can control how much time she spends with the kids. You are choosing to increase the amount of time they spend with a person whose parenting skills make the psychologist concerned.

Sit with that for a minute.

Yes, your life will be more stressful, at least at first. (As they get older, it will be easier for you to get time for yourself.)

Yes, you will have less money.

Neither of those are as important as the commitment you made to the boys when you adopted them.

Now is the time to man up.

I know this isn't want you want to hear. And I have no illusion you will accept this. But I felt a moral obligation to say it.

I'm stepping away from your thread.