Hi Sage, I drop by to lurk on your thread from time to time, I find you have so much inspiring wisdom that helps keep me calm and focused. thank you for that. I was wondering though what your sitch is, I've never gone back through all your threads. I take it your H had an A? do you have children? how long have you been married? How long have you been dbing? Hope you don't mind my asking....just being nosey....