A WW? (5)

[lt0402]

FG, I have asked the L for help on determining the alimony payments. There's a guideline for child support, but the alimony area is much more gray. Will let you know feedback from them. I did put 1 year for the length of the payments which would start from the day we sign the agreements.

She says she will jump back in, but so far I've yet to see the effort. I've seen where she had her resume open on our home PC, but she doesn't talk to me so I honestly have no clue. I don't want her to flounder post D, but she does not want my help and I can't force her to do anything. I won't do anything to hurt her, but I'm not here to bail her out. Just here to look after D and myself now I guess.

I hate the idea of a week on/week off, but my wife is adamant about D not switching b/t homes during the week. Hence why she wants full custody w/ me only visiting every day of the week. I thought week on/week off was a good starting point and we could negotiate to 2-2-3 if W was amenable to it. It would be hard on both W and myself to go that route.

Hanging in there and the focus on the mechanics of this thing are keeping the emotions at bay. I'm great at ripping through a task to get to a goal so it's been easy to focus on this piece of it. Now that it's winding down I find myself at a weird neutral place.

Just took my phone line off the joint account (technically in wife's name, hence why I took mine off). She has her freedom now. Hope it's worth it. I don't think it changes anything and at this point I don't care to know what she's doing. I just want to get out of this thing w/ a stable environment for my D and without W continuing to exert control over everything in our lives.

I also reached out to a co-parenting counselor recommended by my L. Waiting for a call back to schedule an appointment. No way the MC could walk us through co-parenting and I'm figuring a dedicated counselor on co-parenting is better. I asked W to ping her lawyers for recommendations but she refused. Now I need to figure out how to co-parent with this selfish person. It won't involve me being a doormat again, that's for sure. Unfortunately, that probably drives further anger and resentment, but being separated, maybe that keeps it at bay. Unsure, but we will apparently find out.

No agreements from W yet. Today is Fri and she said they'd have this week. Maybe I go home and there's a stack at the house. Who knows. Don't care. I'm stronger than she is and I've no doubts I'll be ok coming out of this. Come hell or high water, my D will have a stable environment post divorce, regardless of what W does.