D8 birthday in 4 weeks. I have asked what she wants to do to try and open up some dialogue on this. I asked a couple of weeks ago. W would normally arrange everything and I would just pick up what she asks for.
Should I:
A. Sit back and wait and buy something from Dad? B. Same but ask W if we can buy a joint present? C. Ask for more details and ask if I can get involved or help? D. Any other coments?....
I am sure there must be people out there who have dealt with this. I am mindful that whatever I do will be wrong, but....also, I am sure W will invite all of her "supporters" (family and friends I really don't like and she knows). She would love that. I guess don't let anyone, friends and family, make you "feel" awkward is the answer - so go along (as D8 needs you). Perhaps asking to do a joint present might be needy? Offering help might okay though?
Surfer.
Buy your D a gift from you. Time for a 180. You used to have no input and just get what wide told you to get. As a dad, think about something she would like and just go buy it from you! It's up to you if she suggests a joint gift, but either way, something would be nice from dad!
