Maybe deep down they know they're being lied to but they're willing to trade sex for companionship because all these stories have the same beginning. A husband that got complacent in the marriage and a lonely wife. That part is on you but the cheating is on her.
While I agree with this statement, often these situations begin because the H got complacent...
I simply cannot endorse the idea of exposing the affair. All it will do is cause more drama and heartache in the end.
All you can do is worry about your own side of the street.
There are many ways that you can show her you are a not a doormat without bullying her into submission.
It sounds to me, from your description, that your W felt very alone within the confines of your M.
The fact that you have recently revealed the porn addiction to her simply reinforces her feelings of aloneness.
You would have rather participated in fantasy sex than in real sex with a real woman.
I understand that you have changed that behavior however I am wondering if you understand what caused it (as well as the true impact it had on her) so that you can ensure it will not be a future problem.
Keep posting here. You will get much support.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
