Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Surfer]

D8 birthday in 4 weeks. I have asked what she wants to do to try and open up some dialogue on this. I asked a couple of weeks ago. W would normally arrange everything and I would just pick up what she asks for.

Should I:

A. Sit back and wait and buy something from Dad?
B. Same but ask W if we can buy a joint present?
C. Ask for more details and ask if I can get involved or help?
D. Any other coments?....

I am sure there must be people out there who have dealt with this. I am mindful that whatever I do will be wrong, but....also, I am sure W will invite all of her "supporters" (family and friends I really don't like and she knows). She would love that. I guess don't let anyone, friends and family, make you "feel" awkward is the answer - so go along (as D8 needs you). Perhaps asking to do a joint present might be needy? Offering help might okay though?

Surfer.