Vey detached, no longer anxious, in limbo

[Sotto]

Phoebe, I'm so sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, MLCers are known for going a bit bonkers with money sometimes. I was pretty lucky in that regard, but I had a separate current account for my main funds. We did keep our joint account open until quite recently and I was conscious of the risk there - but luckily that was okay too.

Protecting your immediate finances and security is of course paramount and I hope your L's will provide good support here. Do you have your own account that he is unable to access at all? If not, I would certainly arrange that - and get some details of what has happened in terms of removing funds from joint accounts.

I know you have been thinking about taking on some work at some point and maybe now is the time to get that financial independence again? Protect, rely only on yourself just now. Also, please try not to see him as calculating and callous. From my experience of MLCers, they are normally pretty lost and confused along with the entitlement feelings of replay. Please do remember this is all about him and not about you just now.

I hope you manage to get some sleep and big hugs from me (((((((Phoebe)))))))