I understand. It took me a while to force the issue. Don't wait too long. It's brutal. Definitely employ the DB rules. The longer you let her "get away with it" the less she'll respect you. Women don't respect cuckolds and if you know she's cheating and do nothing about it then that's what you become. Even if you file and have her served there's nothing saying you two have to go through with it. That depends on her actions. She'd have a lot of work to do to repair the damage she has caused by her hurtful and disrespectful actions. She has destroyed her integrity. She's not an honorable person right now and it will take a lot of work to get that back. Do the 180, the 37 rules and if you have to say anything to her then tell her you won't be in a marriage with someone having an affair. It's too disrespectful to you and you won't be disrespected like that. Honestly my man, limbo does nothing but worsen your position in all this.