Confused on What to Do 3

[Eagle11]

Another thing I forgot to mention is that I went to my IC on Tuesday and discussed my W's drinking. She has basically been drinking about 1 to 1 1/2 bottles of wine a night. To go along with the drinking my W also takes her daily dose of Paxil and Xanax. On Monday night I took my S6 to cub scouts while she stayed home with our S2. We were gone about 2 hours and when we got back I saw that she had drank over a bottle of wine while we were gone. I didn't say anything to her that night but expressed to my IC that I didn't feel comfortable with her being at home for long stretches with the kids if she continues to drink like this. My IC and I talked about what to do and ran through a couple of scenarios. My W was going back to visit family this weekend and we thought about me contacting her mom, but I decided against that because I don't know how that would come across. Basically I didn't know if her mom would believe me because I don't know what her mom thinks of me right now. I finally decided that I would just talk to my W the next time I saw her drinking.

When I got home from the IC on Tuesday evening I was in the dining room eating dinner with the kids when my W came in and asked how my therapy went. I told her it was good and then she asked if I could asked my IC if she could recommend a therapist for her. I was shocked because my W has told me she doesn't need a therapist anymore and she can take care of herself. Anyway, I told my W I would email my IC that night. The next my IC got back with me and gave 3 recommendations which I forwarded onto my W. Then Wednesday night my W told me she had contacted one of the therapists, which shocked me again. She might not stick with it but I hope this therapy works out. I'm not really concerned about the marriage right now as much as her relationship with our kids.

Finally, on Wednesday she opened a bottle of wine started into her drinking. That is when I decided I had to talk to her. I think I did a good job of explaining the drinking to her. I told her I was concerned about her, especially mixing this drinking with drugs. I told her that if she didn't stop the drinking I would not be taking our S6 camping in 3 weeks because I couldn't trust her with our S2 to be home with him for 2 nights by themselves. I just can't take the chance if she is drinking like this along with her drugs that they will be safe if I'm not home. I worry about something could happen to my son and she will be too drunk to help him or something could happen to her and he obviously wouldn't be able to do anything. I told her I am no longer buying any alcohol for her and she needs to stop. She actually agreed with me and told me she knows she has a problem. We will see in the next couple of weeks if she is taking this seriously or not.