As it turns out, h is not. He came today and we ended up having another 2 hours conversation (I don't know why I always let myself get into it). But it was quite a nice one, once I made it clear that he will not raise his voice, won't blackmail me anymore, insult me etc. which he started to do. And btw - it's definitely MLC! And nothing will make me doubt it after today.
Bee, sounds like you did a good job setting some boundaries. My w did all those things to me, mostly in the earlier days, and I wish I would've handled it better.
The clothes thing is strange, maybe he is looking for reassurance that he still looks good or wants to know you to still find him attractive to feel better about himself. Idk. Although the situation is reversed I have a similar thing with a shirt type /color I sometimes wear to see if w notices. Idk if she ever does or not.
Glad to hear you're able to return to work and sports!
