Confused on What to Do 3

[Eagle11]

Eric,

1) How has it been going and
2) Can you give me more detail on WHAT you are doing or scenarios on where you are applying what you learned?

1) I feel it is going much better. I honestly didn't realize how bad my confidence and fear was before. I mean I knew I was lacking in both but after reading the book, I realized I was basically letting the fear and lack of confidence control me.
2) Well the first thing I have done is not be scared to do things on my own. I have done things like go to the golf course, taken a couple of walks and in general made sure I have not spent as much time around my W. We still see each other but I have been making an effort to show her that I have a life without her. The couple of walks I have taken were not in the neighborhood, but at a park. I didn't tell her where I was going or when I was going to be home. The other night she came home and was sitting on the couch watching tv and I get the feeling she expected me to come sit with her, but I told her I had to go out. Trying not to mind read but she seemed a little disappointed. I have also been doing things that historically my W would do like switching our Internet providers and I went to my sons parent teacher conference instead of her. Usually she would do this stuff but I decided I was going to do. It might seem small, but it is out of character for the old me.

GOOD! What was the disagreement if I may?

The disagreement was over her going out of town. She went back to Ohio to visit her family today and is going to be gone until Monday. She told me a couple of weeks ago that she was going to be back Sunday morning. It was minor but by her taking the extra day I lost my chance to do something for myself this weekend because I will have the kids all weekend. She said she told me she would be back Monday but I know she told me Sunday. It didn't get heated or anything like that, but I did stand my ground and told her I didn't appreciate her taking the trip that took up the entire weekend without asking me first. She actually apologized to me (In the past I would be the one apologizing), so that was different.

How are the kiddos?

Kids are doing great. My S6 anxiety seems to be doing much better. I talked to his teacher about seeing the counselor at school again and he hasn't cried at school this week. Previously, he had been crying 2 or 3 days a week when I went to drop him off and his teacher said he broke down in class one day last week and started crying.