New LBH with WAW/possibly WW, need help.

[Coconut]

It's really REALLY hard to work right now, hard to do anything, and I have to go home and act cool. I'll try, but I think I'll tell her how upset it makes me she isn't even willing to fight for our marriage any more.

Thanks.

If your going to go home and tell her how upset you are, then don't go home!!!!

Lemme ask you, what's best case scenario... Ok, best case in my mind is she sees your really upset and feels guilty and says she doesn't want to D and will stay M to you.... Yeah, right... NOPE... Go back and read my sitch, my WW knew what she was doing was wrong, agreed to stop talking to OM other than at work, and it was bad... It made me a wreck, she wouldn't do anything to work on M and kept doing things that I won't accept in my M, why??? Because she didn't want to work on it, she wanted her high she got from being WW. If she comes back because of guilt, it's just gonna cause a slow death, and she's totally disengaged, so it's only a slow death for you...

For your M to work, she has to want to be with you 100%, piecing is hard and if both parties aren't committed it ain't going to work... Trust me, she ain't going to care if your upset, it's not going to make her want you, even if your really upset...

Ever see a few good men? Demi Moore told the judge she objects, the judge said Over ruled, and Demi says but she strenuously objects. it didn't change the judges mind, just made her look a fool.

Your WW has to miss her H, the strong happy person she used to know, so take away her husband and let her watch you grow from the outside looking in, don't let her in until you know she wants it more than anything.