Taking the first step...

[Coly23]

It's so painful isn't it Altair. All this dancing around the issue with the elephant in the room. I do think you are starting to gain his trust again slowly because his interactions with you are more frequent and also the fact that he is sending funny videos to you makes me think that it isn't all doom and gloom. is there any way you can subtly take the ficus off his work when you see/speak to him?

If he is testing you i don't think it is intentional. I can't remember who it was on here (maybe Cadet) who used the analogy of H being like a frightened little bird and you have to be very patient and gentle with him to gain his trust so he will eventually eat out of your hand. Quits cute really!

In my heart I feel that H has really closed the door on our marriage. I don't know if it is the NC thing that is making me feel like this but he has made absolutely no effort at all to contact me. I keep thinking he is glad to be rid of me so I'm actually making it easy and giving him what he wants. Rubbish!