Focus on Me and the Boys 9

[J5K]

So Jim....



What do YOU want ??

I want to be able to work on my health, be the breadwinner for my boys, be fiscally responsible, and start to build a positive co-parenting relationship.

Why does it benefit you ???

Gives me time to work on myself and work some additional hours to make money to provide for the boys. Also puts me in a city that has more people to meet and keep my mind off of STBX.

Why does it benefit the kids ???

No 10 hour round trip travels for the next 15 years once a month. If I bring them back to Michigan it will only be 4 to 6 times per year. Both parents live in the same city and we may potentially do things together as a family.

How does it make you a better man ??

I keep my commitment that I made to my family about moving there in the first place. (Man of my word). I show my boys that I am not fearful of change and show them that I am strong and emotionally stable.

How does it make you a better Father ??

Although it may be less time, the time I spend with them will be healthy. I will be more energetic and help them to make better choices if I have a clear mind as I continue to focus on improving my health through quitting smoking and exercising.

How do you plan on getting there ????

Company will transfer me and help me relocate.

Why did you make that decision ??

I just feel like I need a change also. I made a list and objectively weighed the pros and cons between living in Michigan vs. Toronto.

How do you plan to adhere to your decision ???

Action.

Why are you making the decision ???

In the best interest of the family.

How can I help you with your decision ???

Ensure that I am not doing this for STBX. Support me in developing healthy boundaries with STBX. Ensure my statements and actions have a potentially positive outcome for the boys and myself, regardless of STBX's statements, thoughts and actions.