I have more problems with s15 going to the high school by my apartment. It's a new city, a new school, and he came home yesterday and said "after this trimester, I'm going back to my old school" (which is by ExW's condo.)
I asked s15 open-ended q's "what happened?", "did someone pick on you?" And he cried, and said with frustration "No one is talking to me!" "No one said a word to me the whole day!"
Me: it's a big school, isn't there someone you can talk to?" S15: "they are all druggies or 'd-bags'. Yikes.
Tears welled-up seeing the pain that my son is going thru. He says he is depressed. I told him I would have him talk to a counselor.
I asked him to commit to getting involved in one activity at school, before we consider switching schools. He called me stubborn.
D22 came over with grand-daughter, and this was really nice. I got to rock the 2 month old baby. I showed d22 her adoption files, and the many reports we had to submit bc it was an international adoption. She liked going thru them.
But as soon as d22 left, s15 was back asking me to promise that he can switch schools at the end of the trimester. I'm the kind of guy that faces things one day at a time, while still being aware of what's on the horizon. So I told him he needs to focus on his homework, getting his homework done, and do well in his classes. And I will get his counselor involved.
He became angry and grabbed a bottle of whiskey from my liquor cabinet. He yelled "you're going to make me an alcoholic! I'm going to drink this whole bottle!" I tried calming him down. S15 again said the whiskey bottle was "his", and he was drinking the whole thing. I called his bluff - I told him to go ahead and have a swig. He did and looked like he was going to wretch. He put the rest of the bottle back where he found it. I then moved the bottle to somewhere he wouldn't find it.
This morning I've emailed the school counselor to call me. I've also printed out a list of clubs, activities and sports so we can sit down and get s15 into one. I'm trying my best, but right now, I am enemy number 1 in s15's eyes.
