I agree w/Ginger. Sometimes, we have to stand our ground and tell it like it is. Even though they are out to lunch, we have to do this and you know what? They'll respect you more for it at the end of the day. Don't apologize again for anything that you've already apologized for.
You are a great mom and your sons are great boys. Don't allow this man to rattle your cage. He's got a lot of issues and I often wonder just how he would survive living elsewhere. As for the up all night deal...his demons are talking to him and he can't sleep because his brain is on autopilot all night long. Poor man.
Keep moving forward. You have the patience of a saint and he doesn't know just how lucky he is to have you for a wife.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
