Surfer, this is what I do. I don't call, this kids don't even ask to call her even during a long stretch. I had them for 20 days straight in August, she spoke to them once and I was the one suggesting they try and call her. What I realized is that I was hurting for them, it was affecting me much more than them. With them it was done in a few minutes, then onto the next thing. I text or email only the bare essentials, it drives her nuts, I know it but it's not why I do it. I do it because it's better for me, because it's what I want to do. It also leaves a paper trail and by forcing her to text etc, she leaves a paper trail of her threats etc.
I want to ask you why you sent that message because I believe you sent it hoping to generate a reaction, a shake up to what she is doing, yes?
W sends me all sorts of information about her life, I send nothing unless absolutely necessary, she wants me to be part of her life in some strange way but until she shows any interest in mine, there is nothing there for me. Even some mutual friends who have ran into her in town have said that all she did is talk about herself...
You can't be both mom and dad to your kids, you can only be their dad. They know it, they feel, it [censored] but it's all we can do. I was out the other day and my son said to me he gets bored with his mum, but doesn't get bored with me. Take the positives from your kids and believe in yourself.
Other question, when you called 6 times, what was the time frame? The same day or different days?
