Surfer, I wish you had talked here about what you were going to send first. You have shown her that the games are getting to you, you are being reactive to her games.
I get it, I have the same issues but it's her problem, not yours. Even my kids know, when I had them on vacation in august, I gave the phone to my son to call her. She didn't answer the first or second time he tried. The third day I gave the phone to him, his response was "Why, she won't answer anyway" He tried anyway and she proved him right. Then I texted her one day saying they would call later that day and she answered, I overheard her saying that when mommy and daddy make a plan, it works.... Nothing to do with the fact that she wants the kids to work around her schedule rather than be a mother who is available to her kids anytime day or night.
My WW is using the kids on many occasions to try and provoke reactions from me, I know it, recognize it, talk it out with someone I trust and then get on with life. It shows how low she is prepared to go, the thing you need to remember is to not be dragged down by it. Let it go by and see its her loss not yours. The kids will work it out themselves who is there for them when it matters most!
