Letting my weight down...

[lostlove]

replying to you talking to yourself,

of course you can do all those things! and it sounds an awful lot like doing what works.

LL

[debcb]

just read through your new thread...I've followed you from time to time. I must say there is some really deep stuff here. You are such an encouragement to me, just from the standpoint of sharing your doubts. I feel like i could have written the first post you had here myself.

[minnie1]

Hi Sage,

OMG! I was just going to ask you what you meant by (or actually how you go there) when you wrote:

think for a few reasons...I've really worked on my control issues in lots of areas

and then you post yet another insightful/inspiring post!!! Thank you!

Thank you for visiting as well. You and Cathy are right...cheeseless tunnel. Time to bring out that STOP sign again.

Minnie

[minnie1]

Hi Sage,

Just wanted to stop by and say hello. I remember you mentioning that this month was going to be very busy for you.

I hope you're taking it easy and finding some time for yourself.

Minnie

[sage]

Just a quickie, guys...crazy at work!

Lots of positives over last few days...I'm working on shaking loose my sadsack attitude and that's going well.

1. Had another great interaction yesterday with h re $. We really are doing so well having these conversations! h is so considerate and thoughtful of my feelings.

2. h sat with me on the couch last night and welcomed my big time snuggling.

3. h cancelled his study group for tomorrow night and told me that he needs (!!) a date with me. The way he said NEEDS was made me feel very in demand!

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I've come to the realization (again?) that my stressed response to work and school is a big factor in my mood and reactions and interactions with h. I really need to identify (and practice!) ways that I can reduce that stress and not bring it home with me!

Sage

[Lyrael]

Sage-
I find that it helps me to do something that marks the transition, whether it be putting on comfy clothes, or having a nice cup of tea...anything I can do to signal my brain - "you're safe now; this is your den and you can relax" (I know, dens are for foxes, but it's a safe word to me).
I tend to hold on to the stress if i don't do something that helps me transition.
You're doing great! I am always inspired when I visit you.
Hugs,
Myrrh

[sage]

last day for the week at work...yahoo! watching the redsox opener tomorrow instead of sitting thru meetings!

was up and down a bit yesterday...still taking the work and school stress too much to heart. Had class last night...it went pretty well.

I didn't think I'd be home to pick h up at the train so he wasn't expecting me there. funny thing was that he DIDN'T take the train home! So he got a ride home, saw that it looked like I had been there and surpised me waiting at the train station! He looked SO unbelievably happy to see me...was just brimming over!

1. so, h's enthusiam at seeing me and his VERBAL affirmations are certainly positive number 1!

2. I went to bed before he did but was still awake when he came in. The time before we fall asleep is a special time to me...we usually talk a bit. He said he was happy that I was still awake..that he loves that time, too. Then he mentioned that for a few days I had fallen asleep before him (unusual actuallY) and how much he loves listening to me sleeping. It was just a very touching and personal disclosure by h. I love that he can be open with me.

3. Got a "big date" tonight -- not sure what we're going to do..but we both seem very happy to be doing it.

Preview for tomorrow:
1. h suggested that I take his car to work so he can take mine to the car wash! Huge act of service for me!!! I love his thoughtfulness.

2. h called a while ago from school -- he had a very unsatisfying meeting there. He vented a bit. It made me feel good for a few reasons...his sharing his thoughts with me PLUS I've been in complain mode for a few days so I appreciated being the receiver not the initiator of a mini-rant!!!

Sage

[sage]

I find that it helps me to do something that marks the transition, whether it be putting on comfy clothes, or having a nice cup of tea...anything I can do to signal my brain - "you're safe now; this is your den and you can relax" (I know, dens are for foxes, but it's a safe word to me).
I tend to hold on to the stress if i don't do something that helps me transition.

Myrrh -- this is such a great suggestion!! I NEED a ritual or more than one to mark the transition! I think that will help me a lot!

Thanks for the awesome tip!
Sage

[minnie1]

Hi Sage,

Just a note to say that I hope you have a wonderful, beautiful weekend with H.

Have fun on you big date tonight!
Minnie

[rottzilla]

AWESOME suggestion Myrrh