Somethings are unforgiveable and need not be forgiven. Ever. However letting go of resentment and the need for revenge to me is very releasing.
I aim for detachment and will be there when I have no thoughts of The Giggalo at all. Not even that he rots in hell for all of eternity. A lying cheating scum bag with an itchy nether and palm doesn't deserve forgiveness and he hasn't asked. He behaves as if he is entitled still to treat me and mine as he will. Also long as this continues then NC is my standard response. The more I do NC the more detached I am. Interaction of any kind sets me offor and triggers my PTSD.
My goodness I believe in retribution and Damnation especially for those who need a good dose of it. And it isn't my job to give that retribution either, I know that will happen unless he asks his higher power. I hope he does.
In twelve steps, to obtain forgiven essential we ask for it and we atone. Forgiveness is between ourselves and our higher power. It isn't my job to forgive the unforgivable by the remorseless.
A book that changed my mind on forgiveness is by Jeanne Safer.
I think we should cease to struggle to forgive, let it come in its time and when we are ready.
That's my thoughts.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
