Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Cherry]

Sadly there is no knowing, perhaps she is thinking things through. My wh was way angrier at the start, he wouldn't even look at me but was chirpy to everyone else. Now he is often grumpy with everyone but there's times he approaches me and we have good friendly conversation.

The spinning is a little difficult, I completely get your mixed feelings between wanting to D and wanting to put your ring back on. I guess this is where they say we have the gift of time. Things have got a bit calmer, so keep doing what works. Her various mood swings show that she is spinning, leave her in her chaos and keep focussed upon you. Nothing wrong with just enquiring with an L about matters, I found that this just helped me know where I stand and what I need to do when he filed, it just gives you a little control in a situation that you feel pretty much out of control in. You will know when you are ready to give up, you won't think twice about it. But while you're still in limbo with your thoughts, keep focussed on you and the kids.