In the UK - PT21 feeling stuck

[Sotto]

I recall once reading a post - I think it was by one of our vets...

She said to really imagine that your W were completely gone (perhaps even died) and you had fully finished grieving - and you were not dating.

She said sit and imagine what would be the best possible life for you given all those circumstances. What would you be doing? How would you spend your leisure time? Who would that be with? What work would you do? What would bring you pleasure?

Really taste, touch and smell what that life would be like...is that something you would find helpful?

Spend a little time on that, and when the vision of that life is fresh in your mind - start taking some steps to create that life for yourself right now....

I think it was 25yrsMLC posted that. She and her H were S for 2.5 years and reconciled. She did a lot of new stuff during that time..

Hope this helps Huddy :-)