Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Cherry]

They're good at lying, it's second nature. He keeps telling me that ow is "just a friend" "it hurts you don't trust me" "she's just an innocent party in this". *rolls eyes* At the end of the day, they're fooling themselves, and maybe one day karma or guilt or both will catch up to them.

No advise on the calls really, I rarely call wh. Though when I have so far, he has answered, of course this may be a different matter once he moves out, so I will follow for any advise. I'd say that it would be an important topic to approach sometime, I mean you're only ringing her for child related matters, so as parents, you need to be able to be in contact with one another for that. I laid that out to wh that where the children are involved, we are still a team for that. That has probably swooshed straight over his head, as he goes days without seeing S even when in the same home as him.

I would speak to an L regarding your options, you can state that you don't want to D but you need to protect your assets, a separation agreement or something. Even if you push for a D, she's still going to get half, and possibly even spousal payments too. Is the house in both names?