I really don't know how to deal with the cheating part. She says she not cheating but she clearly is. When she got home last night, I ignored her and went to bed. This morning I didn't even say goodbye. If she doesn't admit it, then what do I do?
For me the definition of cheating has always been .. If it hurts your spouse its cheating. She will justify it to you, herself and all who will listen that its not cheating, or ... we are going to separate so its justified .. or I am filing for D so I can justify this .... bottom line you know its wrong so she can call it what she wants. My W told me it was not an A since we were separated, I truth darted that statement right out of the water and have not had to her her justification ever again.
My advice, drop the pursuit of trying to get her to admit it, in her mind she was checked out long before this .... what difference would it make if she said .. yup its an A and I am going back over tonight ... or not its not an A and I am going back over tonight. You can not control her nor her words or actions .... at this point just conside any spoken word a lie as well as 50% of what she does.
DETACH ... pull the rug out from under her physically and emotionally. she is getting her needs met by OM, let him fulfill them ALL, he wi only getting the good stuff, its new and they are both drunk off the rush an A brings and the M at this point can not compete. Read the section in DB again that deals with this ... its time to DB hardcore.... read Sandi's posts .. do not be afraid to be your own man and DO YOUR thing
