New and need help.

[ForGump]

I have always been dependent upon others to generate my self worth and always looked at my W for this. I need to work on gaining this from myself, but where to start eh?

There might be some temptation to go pick up hobbies, get into sports, etc. And those are good things, if you're genuinely into them.

But self-worth can start with more basic things. Do you have a job? Are you earning money? Are you supporting yourself and your family? That's a good thing, a very basic thing a man is supposed to do. Do a damn good job at your work, and feel good about it.

Do you have a home you're responsible for? (Whether renting or owning, doesn't matter.) Are you keeping the place in a safe, comfortable condition? Taking care of bills, shopping for food & supplies etc. If you're doing that, that's a good thing to be proud of.

Are you taking care of your own health, so that you will be around for your kid(s)? So that you won't become dependent on others? If not, get better at it, and feel good about it.

I believe those are very basic things a man ought to do well. In other words, be self-sufficient and do a damn good job at it.

Then you can start to think about pastimes: playing sports, doing stuff outdoors, gardening, building model ships, whatever. The point is: you don't have to look too far to start building some self-confidence.