FY, thanks for your view. I don't know if I HAD to say it, but there is no harm in her realising I am.not afraid to say what I want and that whereas i am accepting a very limited R, I have limits to what I will accept.

It may be coincidence but there appears to be slightly better interactions in the last few days. Not world changing but noticeable.More conversation more openness and slightly closer position on the couch. There is still a good amount of poorer interactions, but still.

This incident was only one aspect of my weekend. My son had a birthday party at the house on Saturday.I went out with friends Saturday night. Plus on Sunday I worked on the boys bathroom that I am installing from.scratch for them. It is almost finished, so that will be cool for them. And me as I get to scratch another job off my list. Yeah.

I will post that update by the end of the week. Plus I will have finished your threads by then. 3 left, though I read those recent ones months ago. When finished I will have questions.

Best wishes.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together