I've read DBing twice and I've been following the 37 rules from almost the beginning. If I'm acting erratic its because I'm stunned. I read nearly all the first person accounts on this board but when things start happening to you, it's still hard to grasp.
Trust me, I've been working on myself. I been going to therapy and GAL. If I had to stay at home and do anything but the 37 rules, I'd lose my mind.
I feel you my man. My wife was a Disney Channel type of girl. Not Cinemax. She was Mary Poppins not Samantha from Sex In The City.
People change. You can't stop that change. All you have control over is how you let it affect you. I'm glad you're following the rules. Don't ignore the affair. Don't cover it up. Don't accept it. Say that you won't be in a marriage with someone who is having an affair, then detach, and keep up your GAL. Start planning your days as if you're already a single father. Plan activities for you and the kiddo and don't include the cheating wife.
Become the absolute best version of yourself that you've ever been. She'll want in on that. You'll probably have her pursuing you if you do this right. When that happens you'll discover that all your work has made you feel great and you don't even know if you still want her. I went from begging and crying over our marriage to saying "I don't know if I want to stay with a cheater. I can do much better."
