Stop worrying about what she expects or what she wants.
What do you want!
My guess is she is in much turmoil also, so she is not worrying about YOU. She is likely worrying about herself and how she is going to survive.
You become an extra burden for her and part of the reason to give her space so you can each work on yourself.
This is hard stuff and you may not get it right away. It will go against everything you have learned in your life. You have always been a nice guy. Time to start being a nice guy to yourself and not her.
