I had to do just a wee bit of reading up on the type of situation that you are in. Since he's already got someone in mind for a second wife, is it possible that he's trying to create unrest between you, as the senior wife, and the soon to be second wife? Would you be looked upon in the role as "mother" over this new bride? Could it be that he wants to make things so difficult for you to justify his living w/the second wife when the time comes? Has he stated whether both wives would live under the same roof?
One last thought...is it possible that someone in authority has suggested that he take on additional wives after all of this time? If I'm intruding, please know it's not intentional, but I'm trying to better understand your situation.
Also, if you can obtain copies of the following books, they may help you too. They are written by Jed Diamond and they are excellent. They are:
"Surviving Male Menopause: A Guide for Women and Men"
"The Irritable Male Syndrome"
They just might answer some of your questions about the physical changes as well as mental ones.
