Im baaaaaaccckkk! Listen to me, C. I mean it. You have got to get a handle on your stuff. Now. For you. If you continue to react without thinking..it is going to go badly. It just is.
Come on now. You arent a newbie. You know this stuff.
What I see from you is you stomping your feet because you arent getting your way. Is that the man you want to be? I dont think so.
You knew going that this is a long haul. THeres no way around that.
The problem I see is that you are watching her every move, every word, every gesture and measuring it to see what it means. That isnt good for either of you.
The truth is this...she may not be all in right now. She may never be. But that doesnt change your course. That doesnt change the fact that you have got to get your stuff in order. Because no matter what happens, reacting as you do will not serve you well in any part of your life.
She isnt ready to be intimate with you. Accept it for now. Doesnt mean it will always be that way.
She needs to see consistent actions over time before she can trust that the changes are real. She isnt seeing that.
But I dont care about her. I care about you. And I hate to see you going round and round in circles. You need to take the focus off of her and put it on you and your son.
Find something that you like to do and do it. Make plans with friends. Take your son some place special just the two of you. She needs to see you moving forward so she can move forward. She cant do that if she is constantly having to look over her shoulder at you.
You cant keep reacting like this and expect to see change. It doesnt work that way.
