In the UK - PT21 feeling stuck

[NDY]

Hi mate

I think Sotto put it very well. It's like you're waiting on something. Anything to change this situation. But you can only make changes for you. What happens with your W is just as much up to her as you.

You're at that point. I was there not so long ago when you finally say [self censored] it and just go get on with it. It's easier for me because I don't need to lay eyes on my EX. Haven't seen her for months. Only communication is electronically. And I'm ok with that.

And that's dropping the rope. I don't look for signs and I don't look for hints. They say not to let the WAS affect your mood or anything else for that matter. That to me is letting go.

Example. I don't have my ex on my Facebook. Not interested in what she does or with whome. But then a few weeks ago a post comes up from my cousin who was out for lunch with my ex. My cousin. Why was she out with my cousin? Don't care. None of my business.

See the difference mate? If they were you I'd expect some mind of mind reading. Like the rings thing. I may be wrong but I don't think so.

Go have a great life Huddy. Keep posting here. I may even start a new one myself. Just because this is a great place to let it all out and you do. You say what you feel and wear your heart on your sleeve. I just don't want you to suffer anymore.

And dude. If you feel ready to date you crack on. But don't do it in the hope your w will get jealous and come running home. She may not and it's not fair on the other woman. Do it when and if you are done. Not before.

Peace buddy. You have my number if you want to talk one on one. I'm there for you.