Be very cautious regarding proceeding with MC. Not all MC are created equal. Michele has a terrific video regarding MC. Please send me and email and I will send you the link, no charge of course. Seeing a therapist together will not get your W to admit she's having an affair. Seeing a therapist together does give your W the ability to check off the box so she can alleviate guilt and say she tried everything.
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I'm going to cancel the MC. She just texted me that she was going to the diner to help her buddy to prepare for some evaluation he had at work. I'm done.
What do I do now? It's clear what's happening. She wants to go to a mediator so she can end this asap.
She swears that there isn't anyone else and I'm not sure I could prove it without following her around. What should I do?
She was at a male coworker's house til 1:30 a.m. What more do you need to know. Does it really matter if there was physical contact or not. Does it change what you do.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
I'm going to cancel the MC. She just texted me that she was going to the diner to help her buddy to prepare for some evaluation he had at work. I'm done.
What do I do now? It's clear what's happening. She wants to go to a mediator so she can end this asap.
Follow Sandi's rules. She doesn't get to dictate the timeline of this. Nobody can force you to do anything you don't want to do. Slow the process down. Make yourself less available. Follow the rules. 180, detach, all that good stuff. I won't repeat them here, you can read them on their posted thread.
Honestly, she's following the script to a tee. She went to"help" her co-worker at 3:30 while I was at work. Left my daughter at home by herself for 2.5 hours until I got home. 5 hours later, she's still not home.
- m and ww in 30s - s4 - m 11 yrs, t12 -ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM - bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa - 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
I've gone back to church and I've started running again. I've spent more time with my daughter in the last two weeks than I have in the last two months.
I've even following the 37 rules but an affair is tough to ignore.
I'm devastated but I'm going to go to the MC just to see how she spins this into my fault. I have a consultation with a lawyer next week.
I've read DBing twice and I've been following the 37 rules from almost the beginning. If I'm acting erratic its because I'm stunned. I read nearly all the first person accounts on this board but when things start happening to you, it's still hard to grasp.
Trust me, I've been working on myself. I been going to therapy and GAL. If I had to stay at home and do anything but the 37 rules, I'd lose my mind.
