In the UK - PT21 feeling stuck

[Sotto]

Hi Huddy, I'm glad your meeting with your nephew went well. Yes, I would agree that the D can help bring closure - even though unwanted..

What I'd like you to consider is the ground between 'I'm attached to my W and counting off weeks of this MLC prison sentence' and 'I've given up and am dating.' Okay, I'm being facetious here - but I think there is plenty of life to be lived in the territory between the two 'states of being.'

I'm talking about working towards greater detachment and letting her be, whilst living your life as fully as possible, whilst also standing for the M if you so choose....

I can see that you are doing the latter, and I would love to see you progressing more with the former two. It reads as though you have put your own life more or less on hold until she either 'wakes up' or you 'move on and date.'

That's just what I'm seeing from what you post anyway...and I don't really think being D'd makes all the difference. Many posters here live full lives and are minimally affected by their MLC spouse's actions whilst still married.

Hope this helps Huddy, and I hope you'll have a think about what is being suggested xx