I haven't. She swears that there isn't anyone else and I'm not sure I could prove it without following her around. What should I do?
Go back and re-read sandis post for starters.
I will tell you from experience what my MC told me. There is not a therapist on the planet that can successfully help a married couple that contains 3 people. She may say there is nothing ... let her go ahead and believe her own lie, apply the 37 and become physically and emotionally distant ... let HER chase YOU.... Let HER ask to go to MC... let these be HER idea. If you are chasing her, she will chase him and you will wind up tired angry and confused. DBing will help you become centered confident and in control of yourself.
If staying at a fellas house till 1:30 is not an A, its definitely something that should be addressed, and put to bed but that's HER issue to fix and I am guessing she would rather sweep it under the rug ..... ask yourself ... if the table was flipped and you were busted at a female co-workers house till 1:30 what would YOU try and do to correct the misunderstanding? First you most likely would not allowed that to happen out of respect for your wife, she did not think at all about you .... so just assume its a PA as the truth will come out sooner or later as she shows she is high on that A drug, its time for you to do the work ... go back and re read Sandi's post, her 37 and start DBing.
