I don't want to go into many details of my personal situation here as I'm more interested in learning rather than sharing, but I know my husband's childhood issues and I know his adult issues and I can see how the adult issues are at play here and not the childhood ones.
Although I am not convinced actually at all that the issues are the cause of anything, and more rather they are part of the symptoms. Why do I say that? Well, the thing that strikes me about midlife crisis is there is this debate that people say it is real, it is a myth, but all the research on it has been done by psychologists. But it is so odd how people from totally different backgrounds and experiences wind up acting out in such similar ways, go through similar phases, say the same things and there is absolutely NOTHING anyone else can say or do to change it, which in itself you have to admit is strange and a red flag. If it is just about issues then at some point you would expect that people could have some sort of logic drilled into their mind to change it. Which makes me wonder whether there is not a physiological basis for the whole thing.
There simply is absolutely NO medical research that has been done to compare people in midlife crisis with those that aren't. Nothing hormonal, no brain scans, no brain chemistry studies, no genetic studies, nothing. Absolutely nothing. The most you find is some people theorizing on the internet that it is a testosterone thing. Yet there are plenty of illnesses that people act out in strange ways that we know are due to things going on in their body beyond their personal issues. I just really wonder, is this in some way triggered by something that is actually medical, but it just manifests itself in slightly different ways depending on the person's personal background?
The fact that no one has ever done any sort of medical research on this means that it could very well be something medical but we just don't know it. Which is pretty scary in a way. Because all these people are suffering and the people around them are suffering yet no one even recognizes that they might have something physically wrong with them. Even if they can find out there is something wrong, then it would take time to find a treatment. I just feel maybe everyone is totally missing something.
