Thank you Ginger, Irish and FY ... much appreciated
So just thought I would journal a bit ... as the Science experiment continues. Couple weeks ago I think I may have mentioned in the previous thread STBX retained a lawyer, from all I can tell looks like she went with an alumni from her college. I have spoken with her a couple times (The lawyer) first was her calling me letting me know I would be served, out of a courtesy call so I was not blind sided when I shared this was not out of the blue as we have been apart for 3 years she did seem a bit surprised, I was very nice on the phone and we agreed she could go ahead and send the packet via mail and I would return within the 20 days (I am sending this out today... about a week ish after) The second call was STBX was trying to change the schedule. After I came back from China the end of June I wanted S the entire weekend, and wanted to put an end to the Sat/Sunday split we have been doing all this time and would rather have the entire weekend with or without S as I could GAL or plan some fun stuff with him. STBX agreed to "try" this ... I admittedly disregarded the "try" part of the agreement as looking long term this is something I have been trying to get for some time. So after 2 months of this arrangement without mind reading just understanding MLC STBX would be depressed on the weekends I had S as she would often find herself all alone (Guessing OM is not always available which over the past 3 years seems to be the trend). So she had the lawyer call me and try to negotiate the custody arrangement. I comprimised and split the following weekend (STBX gave up a night with S so she could go up north with OM for his B-day and would have only seen S 1-2 days that week) So I agreed to split that weekend but from then on out we go back to the every other weekend and I wanted that in writing which the lawyer agreed on, she shared it took her a bit to convince STBX but as I said if this was the first of many things we were going to hash out I felt VERY strong about this item and I was not going to budge long term.
THAT ... leads me to this .... late last week STBX texts me and lets me know her G-ma was not doing well and looks like she is about to pass. This woman who I am fond of has been in at home Hospice for the past 3-4 years. STBX asked if I would be flexible with the schedule and allow S to attend the funeral (I chuckled wondering why the lawyer was not sent for this) I kept my reply short and said I was sorry to hear of the news and 'of course'. I would like to go and pay my respects as I said I was fornd of G-ma but given all that has happened I will most likely step aside unless FIL/BIL/SIL contact me, even then I will express my condolences and explain gracefully I will not be attending.
I am curious to see how this feeds the hamster in STBXs brain which seems to be having issues with the added stress from the D movements. She showed up to S's baseball game 4 hours late Sunday and called telling him how sorry she was and how badly she felt (I had sent the schedule and all emails just 2-3 days prior). S kinda crushed her when he told her he really did not care if she was there or not.
Outside of that I have been busy, I fixed an old machine at the shop yesterday, got all dirty and had a blast doing it... that sense of accomplishment really does wonders. I also had/have someone who seems interested but I just am not there, so I am politely dodging that bullet like I am Neo from the Matrix. I have this weekend open I think I am going for a ride down the coast, grab a burger somewhere new and have a beer ... something different for a change as I continue to see what else life will toss my way.
