I finished NMMNG and at first I didn't get it. The first couple of chapters I was thinking this isn't me, but as I got into the book I soon realized that this could almost be an autobiography with some of what is described. I would read a chapter and be shaking my head at how similar what was being described was to what I had been doing. I mentioned the book to my therapist last week and she hadn't heard of it but when I started discussing the content of the book she agreed that it describes me. I have been working on my confidence and also not being weak and scared. I am trying to detach from my W, but I have interacted with her over the weekend and I made sure I came off as strong and sure of myself. We actually had a minor disagreement (it was nothing really) and I didn't back down like I would in the past.
The confidence thing .... I never had issue with it till BD then it was a spiral effect and I was amazed how far I dropped off. One thing I learned in IC to regain this was along with GAL but more about getting out of your comfort zone, and doing this consistently. For me it was accepting invites (I usually would make an excuse and be busy) I also took a motorcycle riding course (Ended up buying a Harley and still ride to this day) I started seeing them as little battles ... striking up a conversation with a stranger just again ... something I was not comfortable with but after I walked away realizing it was not really that bad.
I too read NMMNG ... there is another one Hold onto your NUTS which paired well
