I'm not being forced through a D but Mediated Separation instead.
One appointment so far and already my W is saying I'm being unfair, she has a very strange idea of what equates to 50/50! To avoid getting too emotionally involved I'm going to engage my L & obtain an objective perspective on what the split of assets/custody should be. Then if my W says I'm "trying to screw her over!" or I'm being bitter/nasty about the separation, my proposal will actually be the L's recommendation; don't know if you can do the same to try and remove yourself from H's firing line?
Nice to hear you're still having some fun times during all this.
Me 50, ExW 49 T21, M13+ S15, S13 BD #1: 25-Jan-2016 (EA confirmed & ILYBINILWY) Sept-2016 Mediated Sep. starts Oct-2016 W petitions for D Jan-2017 R w OM admitted/confirmed Jun-2018 D'd