This statement may sound a little insane, but don't take her anger personally. Think of it as a side-effect of her waywardness.
Yes, some WW's get angry when the H begins applying the 37 rules, b/c she wants to be in control of him........even though, she currently doesn't desire him. It's not just the rules, b/c no matter what you do......she's going to show anger. That's why I tell LBH'S of a WW to not waste their time trying to please her, b/c that will only make her more angry. Crazy, huh? You aren't dealing with a normal woman in a normal M problem.
The best thing a H of a WW can do is put mental and emotional distance between him and the WW. Just leave her alone and show no emotions in front of her. When she does see you for a few moments, present yourself as a strong, confident man. You don't need her, and you don't have to put up with her bad behavior. At least, that's the persona she should see in you. Don't be an a$$, don't act desparate, and don't be a hen-pecked whimp. Be a man who stands tall, holds his head high, and shows inner strength, and leadership. Be a man you would want your son to be, and a man you would want your daughter to marry.
A lot of men are scared, bc they think it will push her away. They think they need to assure her he wants to save the M. Frankly speaking, the more he shows her he wants her and the M.......the less she desires it. I realize that doesn't make sense to a H, but the mindset of a WW is crazy. She doesn't think logically. When the WW believes he doesn't want her (b/c he's not pursuing and talking about working to save the M, and he is busy GAL), that starts to open her eyes and rethink about what she really wants. It probably won't happen overnight, b/c she has to have time to get her brain working properly. Currently, she is operating from her emotions.
In some of your thinking time, you may need to think about the dynamics in the relationship and home at the beginning of your M. Did it work? Did those dynamics change? If so, how?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
