Our sex life is the best it's ever been. It's a combination of hormone treatment, changing how I handle my period, the fear of losing him, books that helped me understand H and my own libido, trying to tap into my never-really-developed sensual side, and prioritizing our sex life over things like the kids getting to the bus stop on time (although they've never actually missed the bus).
My big fear now is complacency. I don't want to slip into the old way.
On other fronts, I decided to 180 some minor irritations and stop leading us down cheeseless tunnels, and H has responded by doing some 180s of his own and avoiding the cheeseless tunnels that he lead us down.
I don't think DB saved my marriage, because that doesn't give H credit for choosing to stay and doing the work he's doing. DB and Michelle's book on sex-starved marriages did help me figure out what I needed to change, and my IC gave me the mental tools to not freak out and wreck everything.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
