I'm only 9 months in so not in a position to offer you pearls of MLC wisdom, but I see a lot of sense in NDY's remarks. I’m still working towards dropping that rope myself. In some ways I know how you feel and why you look for signs in W’s behaviour/reactions. I still do it too but realise I must break free of it.
My MLC-er W seems to have a six-sense wrt my thinking sometimes, perhaps it’s my body language she picks up on. A few days ago my W seemed to read my mind, stating that I’m still thinking she will change her mind and recommit to the MR. I’m coming around to the idea that W’s MLC-ESP will only ever stop working when I am truly able to detach completely, and who knows it may be this very action that scares or jolts her out of the MLC rut.
Wouldn’t say I’m devout but do have some loose religious beliefs, maybe there is a higher power at work in terms of reconnecting you with some of your family? In any case, glad your nephew is now doing well and hope this relationship keeps going & growing.
Keep making the most of those opportunities with your children.
Rooting for you; all the best.
Me 50, ExW 49 T21, M13+ S15, S13 BD #1: 25-Jan-2016 (EA confirmed & ILYBINILWY) Sept-2016 Mediated Sep. starts Oct-2016 W petitions for D Jan-2017 R w OM admitted/confirmed Jun-2018 D'd