Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Surfer]

Cherry,

Thanks for that, really kind.

I think you are right. The kids are always cheered by me. D8 was a little down this morning and sent them in to school with a smile and a tickle.

W was really quite nice, last night, after avoiding my 6 calls to her to let S6 know I can't go to football due to work. That avoiding calls thing really bugs me - it makes me want to do the same but I think, whilst I might not want to talk there and then I do tend to call back within 10 - 20 mins etc. Its probably the best 180 I can do on that front.

This morning a little frosty again. I really feel she is having it easy.

Yes, going to leave the dating thing. It just doesn't feel right. Oddly not wearing my ring does feel right now....figure that one...?

The love yourself thing - that will take time.

I read something that Sandi2 posted about WW not wanting you to see them naked. Stating (I think from memory) it's because they feel you are just another man and their affections are with another. My W did this for at least 2 years after her EA. Still bugs me that it was probably a PA but I can't prove it. It doesn't matter its the disloyalty etc. I know you have similar concerns. Very frustrating. Sometimes I couldn't care less....very strange. Must be kind of grief cycling?

You H has far more wild mood swings than my W. It might be comforting to know that my W used to have these - raging to calm (daily - in front of the kids; it was truly awful). It gets better. I think when they feel they are 'free' - separated. Then I think reality can bite - this may take some time or never happen.

Thank you again.

Surfer.