Good insight, Cherry. I never thought about mood-matching before, but you are right, it's not a good pattern to get into. I'm going to have to keep my eyes out for that tendency in myself.
I showed L-friend a pic of H's OW way back in June (before she dumped WH), and he said the same thing, that my WH had affaired-down. Shrug.
You sound like you're doing better Miss C. Keep on keeping on.
(((((Cherry)))))
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16