Did a bit of snooping (I know, I know...) Haven't been able to listen in 3 weeks since W went back to work. I don't know that she's spoken to 3 lawyers, but I do know she spoke to the L that handled her sister's D (who subsequently remarried her H). The L asked for $5000 that my W clearly doesn't have, so she asked again for half. My W is hemming and hawing about asking her mother for the $2500. She doesn't want to get her mother involved and is fearful her mother will refuse to give her the money anyway. She's already afraid her mother is halfway to quitting the babysitting job my W is paying her for.
She was relaying this information while on the phone with the OM (and today's his birthday, doesn't this guy have a life?) The strange thing is she's telling him about our Friday night argument and her version of that story is also full of LIES. She's always hedging that I'm going to fight her over the house when I have no intention of doing so. We've never discussed possession of the house other than my affirmation that who's paying for it weighs more than who's on the title. She invented that she had some amicable plan to split the sale of the house but I refused to hear it. She's never mentioned anything about the future of the house in any discussion. It's never happened except in her mind.
She also embellished other parts of our argument. I interrupted her only to point out the faulty math in her child support proposal. I kept quiet when she discussed her feelings and her plans. In her version to OM, I raised my voice most of the time and interrupted her every point in the conversation. The conversation was typical of her MLC spew - I put up calm resistance at first, but as the talk progressed I kept quiet and let her ramble, validating whenever she asked if I had anything to say. Her version of the argument was exaggerated b.s.
In all her conversations with others about our sitch, I notice how she NEVER mentions the kids. Ever. This worries me. She never worries how they're going to be. I wonder if our sons seem to her like dishes or laundry; things that must be dealt with. She continues to insist on helping S8 with his homework every day, and she continues to blow her fuse in less than 5 minutes when he doesn't get the gist of things right away. I wonder why she just doesn't give up and have me do it. She's tuned out so much else around here.
I found a D lawyer that specializes in father's rights. He charges $125 for a 1 hour consultation. I think that's fair. I will see this guy next weekend.
M: 49, W: 45 T: 22 M: 15 S14, S11, S9 BD: Jan '16 W files: Oct '16 D final: June '18
