Fade and MV, I'm going to bring up all of the above with the L tomorrow. If worse comes to worse I'll just tear hers up and have my Ls write one. Fade, what you described is precisely my goal for agreements. Joint custody, 50/50 split, 50/50 finances, short term spousal support. going to discuss in more detail the adultery part with L tomorrow. I hope to not have to bring that into things but I won't do less than 50/50 custody of D. I am absolutely ready to push the thermonuclear button if necessary to get a fair split of D.
On the discussion with her last night, I know it was more in depth than it should have been. My gut told me I needed to tell her a couple things and I did. I knew it wouldn't help the situation but I felt I needed to speak my peace about her seeing an IC and her thoughts that I did not care. Don't really know why, just felt it had to be said.
I'll have our phone accounts seperated tomorrow so W can talk to OM to her hearts content. Funny thing is I haven't checked the account since she last went to see OM. fairly certain she has reverted back to FB to talk to OM as I surprised her by accident and she quickly flipped out of the messenger on there. Truthfully it hurt for a second and I wanted to go into detective mode but that feeling was fleeting. Let OM deal with her issues.
Fade and MV I'll let you know what L says tomorrow. I appreciate the push back on me. I'm trying to not file first so I can look my D in the eyes years from now and tell her I did everything I could go save our family. It may be that i need to break that vow in order to save D and me but lets see what L says tomorrow. Thank you both!!
FG, she is a SAHM. W thinks she can get a job paying six figures and work from 930-3:30 everyday. I've seen on our home pc that she's opened her resume, but I've no clue what she's doing with it. I do find myself fearful that if she got some custody she would take my D and move. Either to OM or back to the city we lived in 8 years ago about 5 hrs away. I really don't know how W will get by post D though. I'm expecting unlimited spousal support to be on her list for the agreement. We will see. W is doing room mother for ads school right now though. That's taking enough time that she can't do stuff at the house apparently. Can't make this stuff up.
Busy day tomorrow. IC in the am, L midday, and GAL tomorrow evening. Won't be able to run but will make up for it on Wed. Thanks everyone!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
