Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Cherry]

It sounds like they did lots, don't worry or doubt that for a second. They left smiling and they spent some fun time with their dad. Essentially all kids want is to feel that love and attention from their parents, you give that, all the time. You got that on lock! Don't worry!

Ugh that magic wand would be great wouldn't it?! Pay no mind to the rants, we know it isn't about us at all, it's them and their crisis. Scared animal backed in a corner lashing out and spitting venom where they feel. My wh can be fine one day, have no contact with me- and moody the next. I'm starting to get used to these wild mood swings and accept that they're nothing to do with me. Leave him to it and carry on being the same steady person.

Absolutely no point in rushing dating. Don't feel pushed to by anyone. When you feel you're done and that's what you want to do, it will feel natural. You won't even have to think that through. Right now you're still torn with emotions and feelings for your w. I think dating would only complicate matters. And if your w got wind of it, it could possibly damage any chances of reconciliation.

Keep focus on you and your babies. Love yourself. I know it's tough, and some days seem harder than others. But keep going. You really are doing good.