Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 5)

[ForGump]

Not to sound disagreeable ... but ... JR ... you've been doing self-improvement for two years. Man, enough is enough. Everybody is flawed. Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody has weaknesses. You've dropped an enormous amount of body weight, and dragged your butt through years of torment to save this marriage. Are we not allowed to be normal, flawed, human beings?

You didn't do drugs, you didn't gamble, you didn't cheat. You wrestled with depression and you dealt with it, and you're dealing with it. You've done nothing but self-improvement for two years while your W treated you shitty.

You're a decent, normal guy. Nothing more, nothing less. Do whatever your heart feels, man. Talk to your wife. Be warm. Be cold. Enjoy your vacation. Enjoy your kids. Call her if you want to. Don't call her if you don't want to.

After all that you've put into this -- what happens now is on her. Not on you, man.