You know, of course, that's mainly bollox being punted by your W? Here in the UK, everything gets split 50/50 (that's everybody's pension) and unless there are particular issues with one parent having the kids, custody is also 50/50. A judge will decide at D, if you get there, and will always act in the interest of the children, not the parents.
All that nonsense about loans is another way of whacking you with a stick. If it's not noted that you had to pay it back on account of a D, it's history.
Stay strong and hold tight!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
