Does your dad get mad a lot? It almost seems like it as you were just saying he was mad at you for something or another a few weeks ago. I don't want to be an arm chair social worker here but much of who we are today are due to how we grew up. I know that's the case for many, myself included. Just a thought.
I once again get it with the being stuck. It's what brought me back here after I was wearing my friend out and also felt embarrassed to tell them some of this stuff. So I get it. I don't have any ideas or suggestions but I do get it - as I'm living it.
You look 22? Bonus. An older married guy hitting on you? Yeah, a bit creepy.
Oh and finally, I so totally need a good wing woman! What are you doing next weekend?
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
HAHA, I don't look 22. I was just looking the mirror reminding myself to get some dye for my grays. I also plucked a gray eyebrow hair today, lol. I do look younger than my age, but I no longer get carded. It was kind of a pain in the butt in my 20's because people thought my ID was a fake!
My dad is actually my best friend and he pretty much raised me. We are very close. In his older age, he just wants to see me settled and happy. He fears me making financial decisions or otherwise that are not good for me. So if I consider something against his advice, I think he just gets scared and worried. I'll always be his little girl and he will always be worried about me. If I could give him anything in this world it would be to give him peace of mind, that me and my daughter (who he adores) are happy, secure and settled. I hate I can't give him that to the full extent. He is, however, very proud of me and does think I have done amazingly with all I've been through. But yeah, I 've got Mommy issues that contributed to my poor relationship issues, lol.
I'm sorry you are stuck too. I've just been cycle from time to time. I'm stuck trying to get to a destination I can be comfortable and secure with.
I'm glad you put a bid on the house. Let's hope they accept it.
There are a lot of women out there that are doing the "gray" bit these days. Some of them said that they are very proud of those gray hairs...even at the young age of 29! LOL! I'm sure you look just fine and will find the time to take care of them by "washing them away".
As for that guy hitting on you while his wife was there...says a lot about him...doesn't it?
Ginger, I think you are doing fine. I don't see you as being stuck, but more like you are climbing that huge mountain. Keep at it...you are slowly getting to the top.
BTW, you may want to think about starting a new thread.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hello my amazing friend. Forgive me as I havent read all the posts here.
First of all, you were sorely missed at the get together. Secondly, I am so sorry about the condo.
So,maybe what I am about to say isnt how everyone else feels, but, that never stopped me before.
You are good with who you are. And that is freakin cool. And I am sorry, if a guy doesnt like who you are...move along. Because if you have to change who you are by being softer or whatever, that doesnt work in the long run. He will see that side of you if he chooses.
THe fact that you havent met someone doesnt lie in whether you tell a dirty joke or not. You dont have many opportunities. But it also lies in the fact that you have some walls up.
I think subconsciously you are fearful. But it's more than that. I think you worry about how you are going to fit that into your life. Will your daughter like him? Can he handle all that you deal with? As those questions run through your mind, and while you may be open to a relationship, you are also really wary of one.
I did everything in my power, without realizing it, to push away the man I am seeing now. I showed him all the sides of me right off the bat. Heck, I practically challenged him to stay away. I wasnt looking for anything at the time. I was really good on my own. IF anything happened, I was good. If it didnt, that was ok, too.
Be you, G, always. Because your "you" is pretty spectacular. And the right man will see that and love that. You are gorgeous, funny, kind, kick ass and a whole lot more. You have amazing gifts to offer. And the really best thing about you...is that you are always who you are. There is no phoniness, no wondering about what you think. There is a wonderful down to earth quality about you, G, that makes people feel comfortable right away.
Those are the things that matter. They are the things that will matter one day to the right guy.
I am sorry you are feeling so lonely and alone. I get it. I really do. I was there for a long time and it succked. But it's not forever. It is just this moment in time. And maybe at this moment, you are meant to be with your daughter and your family and friends and work and go to school.
Sometimes you have to just push through this stuff to get to the next amazing good parts. They are coming, sweetie. I know it, without a doubt. Just not yet. Just not right this second.
Live your life, my friend. Continue to be the incredible person you are. And one day, when you least expect it, someone will walk into your life worthy of you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
